The Oil Of Communication

33 Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit.       Matthew 12:33

 Last time I told you about a 1962 Ford Galaxy 500, maroon of course, that I bought in 1968.  The car was typical for vehicles back then. They were simple to operate and simple to maintain. There was actually room under the hood to work.

In fact, all you really had to do was put fuel in the car, remember to keep the oil level up and change the oil often, tune the car up often (not like the cars today where a tune-up is maybe every 100,000 miles), and know where you were going.  If you did those four things, you were usually able to get to where you wanted to go.

We said that our relationship with God, and our relationship with everyone else, can be looked at in much the same way.  Let’s look at the second of those four things we need to do to develop and grow that relationship.

We need to have the oil of communication. Our words are important.  We need to carefully select the words we say.

In the engine of that Ford Galaxy 500, there were many moving parts.  Those parts constantly rubbed against each other.  Without that engine oil, the friction created by those moving parts would generate so much heat that the engine would eventually stop running.

We interact with many people during the day.  They could be family members, friends, co-workers, and even just a stranger in passing.  There is the potential for our actions “rubbing against” those that we come in contact with.  Without the oil of communication, those interactions can “overheat” and the relationships cease to function, or even exist.

There are three things about our communication that we need to remember that are important to our relationships with others, and with God.

  • Our communication defines who we are. Look at Matthew 12:33. If you look at a tree and see pecans on the branches and laying on the ground, you know that the tree is a pecan tree. You don’t see oranges hanging on a lemon tree. In the same way, the words we say identifies us. Would your words identify you as an encourager or as a complainer? Would they tell people you love God and others, or do you try to cause division? People identify us by the words we say; by the fruit from our lips.
  • Our communication reveals our heart. Look at Matthew 12:34-35. If our hearts are filled with good, then the words we say reflect that. If our hearts are filled with something else, then God and those around us will figure out who we really are quickly. We cannot claim to follow Christ and lie. We cannot claim to follow Christ and spread rumors. We must be sure that our words we say reflect God’s love for us and others.
  • Our speech will be judged. Look at Matthew 12:36-37. The words we say are much better indicators of who we are than anything speeches or writings we produce. We expect that what we say in Church brings honor to God and is beneficial to others. But what we say when we walk out of the Church is a much better indicator of the condition of our hearts. And God, as well as others, will judge us on what we say.


The oil of communication will strengthen, will enrich, and deepen our relationship with God.  It will get us through the rough spots, the tight spots, and the times when things try to overheat.  The oil of communication will keep things running smoothly.

Next time – the tune-up of caring.

 © 2015 Charles A. Kalkomey

February 15, 2015